Again, this isn't really about me, just some general questions since this is new territory for me.
And when you are with an alcoholic, you are used to suffering in silence as the martyr, wondering why the alcoholic does what s/he does. This included that he did not go to my grandfather’s funeral, he did not come home all night long, and he brought cocaine into our home.
After four and half pages of undeniable facts, I realized that there was no longer any question of whether or not I could stay with him. When you live with an addict, you are never quite certain about reality. By writing down the facts as they happened, he could not come back to me later with his own version of the truth.
In my case, there were months of lying about his sobriety when I just wasn’t sure whether he was drinking or not.
Had I begun the list sooner, instead of listening to the words I so wanted to believe, I would have saved myself at least a year of heartbreak.
Some are deeply spiritual people whose lives are infused with meaning and purpose, while others volunteer in their communities or have interesting hobbies that keep them grounded.
Because recovery is a lifelong process, recovering addicts are in a perpetual state of self-improvement.This is pertinent to me ( day 15 ) but this isn't about me. I admit that I've chosen this path for less than noble reasons. Say he/she has a stable job, nice house, nice personality as far as you can tell, would this make any difference. Brutal honesty in real life vs online dating sites. Especially online since one wrong thing said can put you on the not to be considered list, and being an alcoholic is a biggie to most people for sure.“Safety should be at the forefront of everyone’s mind,” says Stan Tatkin, Psy D, MFT, author and assistant clinical professor at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA.“In this digital age, we mostly know nothing about our courting partner.” As a couples therapist, Dr.Men and women learn a lot in recovery, not just about staying sober but living a happy, satisfying life.