”Have you ever gone deep with your conversations with strangers and acquaintances? I once struck up a conversation with a famous NFL football player while eating lunch at the bar of a New York City restaurant. Another rung up the irresistibility ladder for you.
Sustained eye contact makes the other person feel they are the most important person in the room.
When the other person is talking, do not let your eyes wander and do not look at your phone—unless you tell them ahead of time that you are ‘on-call.’Have you been guilty of looking away when someone is talking to you? Can you look in the mirror and say, “I love you so much, you are awesome?
Everyone has ‘baggage.’ If you are not your baggage, you can be a turn-on.
So invest in coaches, therapists and/or personal development programs that can help you make peace with the past so that you can gain the confidence to be the ‘you-est’ you. Watch this TED talk: The sweetest and most important word to your ear is…your name.
The impact of sexual violence goes far beyond any physical injuries. You may question your judgment, your self-worth, and even your sanity.
When you’ve been raped, the world doesn’t feel like a safe place anymore. You may blame yourself for what happened or believe you’re “dirty” or “damaged goods.” Relationships feel dangerous, intimacy impossible.Sexual violence is shockingly common in our society.According to the CDC, nearly 1 in 5 women in the U. are raped or sexually assaulted at some point in their lives, often by someone they know and trust.The trauma of being raped or sexually assaulted can be shattering, leaving you feeling scared, ashamed, and alone or plagued by nightmares, flashbacks, and other unpleasant memories.But no matter how bad you feel right now, it’s important to remember that you weren’t to blame for what happened and you can regain your sense of safety and trust.Randi is a clinical social worker based in the United States who works with clients with a trauma history.