Should I just write all affectedly in my goth diary? But if you’re just going to stand around and watch, well, then you’re an added dead weight that we’re metaphorically carrying.
Dating a touring musician
However, most of my band mates and musician friends basically live on a stack of pizza boxes, whisky, and Muscle Milk. If they are inspired to write something, whatever you're doing has to stop. Also, why is Smash Mouth your favorite band of all the time? All those songs I played you when we first met couldn't have been about you.
I sleep on an awesome bed in a great apartment, full of color and life, and have only vomited on my own floor once and that was years ago and I had the flu. Then they cannot be your favorite band of all time. Get ready to listen to a bunch of songs about their exes.
I have nothing but the nicest things to say about most of them . It’s normal to feel a little jealous, but there’s no point in getting too insecure because this will happen after show. If I’m in a relationship with someone, I of course want to support their career, but going to a bunch of gigs, especially ones that are late at night, can be a pretty hearty time commitment. Speaking as one of those people, it takes awhile to develop thick skin. This is another fact: unless he and his bandmates are explicitly sober, they’re going to be around alcohol and probably drugs, too, and oftentimes getting it for free. This is a saying from my friend, our former “Mind Of Man” columnist John De Vore.
Don’t take my swearing-off musicians as a warning, per se. They have intense relationships with their band mates that will be more important to them than the relationship they have with you. It’s a wonder anyone in a band has time for a romantic relationship given how much time they spend bickering with each other over big egos, women, money, and God knows what else. So handle with care: the sweet, sensitive guy who writes you love songs is also going to be sensitive about that nasty Pitchfork commenter. Your musician boo may not write songs about you, exactly, but about your relationship or love in general.
All the while you are starting to fall apart because you are hungry and strung out. Many times I’ve had people say to me, ‘Oh yeah, I saw you at _____ Festival.
So and so pointed you out to me and said that you’re _____’s wife.” Assume your demeanor and behavior are being noticed, not from an egotistical angle, just because that’s how people are.
In the spirit of our Valentine’s Day issue, which is brimming with love . I’ve sat on an amp against the wall and wondered what I should do. The only exception to this rule is if you live together and sound check is an errand you must run in between going to Walgreen’s and going to Costco.
of cynicism, here is a guide to relationship DON’Ts when dating a musician in a band. Even as a girl, I wholeheartedly defend the no-girlfriends rule. I’ve certainly been that girl who's gone to a dude’s band practice. Please, for the love of God, don’t go to sound check.
You, on the other hand, are neither a band or audience member; you’re somewhere in between.