In the dating scene, to self-identified intelligent women, it appears true that men prefer dating women who aren’t as smart, who don’t have careers, who aren’t an “equal.” I’ve confronted men with this idea and heard rounds of denial that they love smart women and smart women excite them, but the reality is different.
Men can profess all day that they love intelligent women, but when I watch my smart, educated, successful and very attractive friends struggle with dating, I am suspicious.
We've changed our clothes, hair and grooming styles to fit the destination, yet there's something we can't seem to change that's making the journey a treacherous hike.
Women now associate the dating landscape with the same risks many face going into the arctic tundra.
It's cold, uncomfortable and it's more than likely that you'll die before getting that fire lit.
The study, carried out by researchers the University of Buffalo, California Lutheran University and University of Texas, Austin, posits that men’s attraction to certain traits in women can be directly affected by how realistic a romantic prospect their potential lover is.
Broken into two parts, 105 men were first read a hypothetical scenario involving a woman who either outperformed or underperformed them in a Maths or English course and then made to imagine them as a romantic partner.
You’ve realised that this smouldering hot chick sitting across you is incredibly dumb.
You want to date someone who challenges you, with whom you can perhaps hypothesize an alternate world that differs from ours in one key aspect and then pose questions to each other.
However, I have noticed a few not great things that often seem to come with high intelligence (correlation not causation?
You cannot take one more date filled with conversation revolving around shoes, bitchy friends, Bollywood, the new dress she just bought, or the million other irrelevant things that you’re least interested in.
While the authors behind the study caution that more experimentation may be needed to confirm the conclusion, they do believe that “feelings of diminished masculinity accounted for men’s decreased attraction toward women who outperformed them.” Who knew masculinity could be so fragile?
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Because, for all you bright and educated women out there, what you feel is real… The popular saying “ignorance is bliss” doesn't exactly cover the broad spectrum of woes women feel as they sit alone Friday nights with no one to discuss Nietzsche or read lines from Proust with.