I know it's really weird for me to come talk to you out of the blue, and I won't take up too much of your time, but I wanted to ask you something…" So, how do you tell a woman that you want to date multiple women, in a way that communicates that this is totally normal?
There are a few possibilities, and I cover them all in my Relationship Management 3-DVD course (which is about everything from traditional relationships to friends with benefits, though of course a lot of it is on dating multiple women).
But since we have one article to work with her instead of 3 DVDs, let's pick just one: put this information in a story you tell about something that happened in the past.
For example, let's say you were talking about awkward moments or first date stories: A couple years ago, I went on a first date with this woman, and I guess I didn't really know a lot about her.
You need to explore where your motivation to date several women comes from before you can know for sure that going through with this new dating setup is a good idea.
[Read: What men think impresses women and what actually does] How to date multiple women without being a douche Assuming you are ready to go ahead and date multiple women at once, what are the dos and don’ts to keep in mind to ensure you’re not being a douche and hurting people? Do not lie to women about your intentions, your past, or whether you are dating other people right now.
After a fabulous date when he feels really close to you and has forgotten about the other women, he may want to sleep with you.
But, next time, if he oddly avoids sex, he might have just seen one of the other women the night before and feel confused.nothing that would truly bond you.
Really multiple dating is just a code term for: 1) Keeping your options open.
2) Being afraid of commitment because you’re afraid of getting hurt. Some people keep their options open because they want to shag around, they think there’s plenty of fish in the sea, and they also worry that someone who perfectly meets their criteria may be out there somewhere and are afraid of ‘settling’.
The issues arise because not only do people bluster blindly through dating ignoring red flags and letting their libidos and imaginations make decisions for them, but we .