However, if the marriage question arises, it can be a deal-breaker for the older woman-younger man relationship, as South County resident Anne discovered. They dated for five years before becoming engaged two years ago.
“I could not marry as I knew one day it would end,” Anne said.
It has felt a bit strange, then, that the article which inspired Stitch doesn’t appear on the Stitch blog.
We thought it was high time we republished it here, updated to reflect what we’ve learned from the thousands of people who have registered for Stitch so far and told us their stories. We are all living decades longer than we once did, and are staying fitter, healthier (and in some cases, friskier) further into our wisdom years than ever before.
How does a 56 year old man find a good younger woman that would be interested in marriage and willing to have children by him? Most good sites line me up with the 50 year olds and most 36 year olds tend to think I’m a dirty old man.
I know that such a person exists but can’t find a good avenue to find her. Thank you, Dale, for acknowledging a few very common truths from the world of online dating.
Last week’s column about older women’s frustration with men who date younger women caused a topic flip-flop.
A San Clemente man wrote: “What’s interesting is the vast amount of older women who are going after significantly younger men. The average man who e-mails me is between 35 and 45 and I get the men who are 65 and older also.You’re a successful older man who wants to date a woman significantly younger than him. Needless to say, this goes for ALL people who are dating online. We want what WE want, even if what we want is unrealistic.Websites generally attempt to pair singles with matches who are demographically similar. We’re all so dazzled by looks and youth that we pass up amazing people who are a much better fit. The woman who graduated high school in the same year as you? “I can’t help what I’m attracted to,” say all of my clients – both male and female. I do know, however, that as long as they close their minds to dating people who are age-appropriate, they’re really going to struggle with online dating.“If we had met 20 years ago, it would have made a difference, a 30-year-old and a 48-year-old, but at 54 and 72, it seems a bit rockier.” Rebecca points out that marriage isn’t as important to older women as it was in child-rearing days.“So many people are divorced now and on the dating circuit, it amazes me.Most 36-year-old women think you’re a dirty old man. This does not mean that you’re not a great guy with a ton to give and the purest intentions. I know you were looking for advice, Dale, so I don’t want to leave you without it. One, sign up with one of those successful men/younger women sites.