But deeper than that, what you’re hoping is for me to confirm that I see things the way you want them to be – “he loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, etc.” You ever play those games? It’s a sense that you don’t really believe that it could be true, but you really want it to be.
A lot of the time, women fall into the trap of playing “emotional detective”: They dig into their memories and observations and go through EVERY insignificant detail to try and uncover some “hidden message” or “secret code” that the guy is sending.
To answer your question from the information you’ve given me… From what you told me, my read on what you’re trying to figure out is one of three scenarios: a) you want to know that he likes you because knowing someone likes you feels good, b) he is indifferent to you (in the romantic sense), but you and you’re seeing what you want to see, c) you don’t know whether or not he likes you, but you’d be open to starting something with him.
I’m going to go with the assumption that you like him, mainly because if you didn’t, you wouldn’t have asked.
but assuming that they like you in the way that you want them to…
well, that usually leads to them actually liking you!
fter three months of dating, 23-year-old Michael was optimistic about his relationship with Linda*. Michael and Linda mutually agreed that they wanted to move forward in the relationship.
They were together often, and he'd even met her parents. He dropped her off at home, kissed her goodnight ... After his attempts to reach her went unanswered, Michael put on his cute-guy hat and delivered Linda's favorite cupcakes to her office -- only to find out his name had been removed from the guest list at the gate. The term "ghosting" (sometimes known as the "slow fade") refers to the anecdotally pervasive act where one dater ends a relationship by simply disappearing.
Once, I dated a guy who would text me, or call me every day. I wasn’t freaked initially, but I noticed there was something essentially missing in my day. I had to remind myself of one important truth: When a man isn’t calling you, instead of worrying about what that means put the situation into perspective.
The next day came and went without a text and again I reached out to him. It was true ghosting because back then social media didn’t allow me to keep tabs on him. The fear you get when a guy you like isn’t reaching out to you.
(The Discovery Channel has yet to confirm the anecdote, but current 20-somethings speculate as much.) But in an era of Tinder, OKCupid, JSwipe and Hinge, matchmaking often happens by swiping right and left, making potential daters literally disposable.
The ease of app and online dating has allowed ghosting to take new form.
’ This classic advice taught for centuries, encouraged men to get a woman’s number then wait wait three days to call, or make contact. There are two things going on that you should observe.