As long as your contact with men is clouded by this assumption, you’ll be subconsciously blocking them from getting to know you as a real live human being.
So it’s not just This Dude, it’s The President, it’s Men Today or Men Always.
It’s all men.” My go-to Anxiety Time move is to make the personal Political, the micro Macro.
Having empathy for a man you assume is shivering in your presence is not the answer.
You’re still sure that he’s afraid of you, the poor fuck. You think, “Fuck, it’s happening again.” He thinks, “She seems pretty great, but why is she already pissed at me? You’re so sure that everything amazing about you turns men off.
They asked their subjects to take a math test, then manipulated each man’s result to make it higher or lower than that of an actual woman sitting next to him.
When the man’s score was higher than the woman’s, he was more likely to put his seat nearer to her and express romantic interest.
Most of the time, I’m the one that’s intimidating men, but on the rare occasion, it’s the other way around. When a man is intimidating, there’s not a good way for me to maneuver around.
I become nervous, I can’t think of anything to say – I literally become an entirely different person.
If a woman they met seemed smarter or more ambitious than they believed themselves to be, they dialed down their romantic interest.